Zoya Ahmed, 33, is going through a mess in Karachi, Pakistan.
Her decision to abolish the marriage launched an anti -retraction campaign by her husband, who said that she registered a false police cases, including a criminal complaint, alleging an additional relationship, and triggered property disputes.
“it [extramarital affair case] It is very anti -women. The kind of shame I have to face in court. Our court rooms are full of men … The way everyone sees me, it is a different scary experience. ,
Ahmed said that sexual inconsistency was one of the reasons that marriage was detected.
She said that her husband made fun of the desire of intimacy to shadow her society and cried, “You want sex. Now you will get it.”
He said that many of his male friends have been nominated in the Extramporal Affair case, causing further damage to his social status.
Divorce is deeply tarnished in Asia. Even the rate of divorce has increased in many countries in the entire region including India, Pakistan and Indonesia, the decline for women is serious.
Financial insecurity and emotionally great
For example, in Pakistan, divorce is allowed under Islamic law. Married women in the country can start divorce proceedings, but in many cases they are required to confiscate or return to them. More (Davar) Husband in the form of compensation for dissolution of marriage.
A 34 -year -old woman, who asked not to be named, said that her effort in divorce became a long battle after finding that open Block – A legal process for Muslim women to divorce – was removed from her marriage contract.
Even when women maintain the right to start divorce, emotional respect remains serious.
The 40-year-old Pakistani woman Naveen Notia is now living in Britain, recalling her parents’ divorce.
His mother included open Section in marriage contract.
“My grandmother had a conversation with my father’s family about my mother, when his marriage was right to divorce at the time of signing contract, and my father’s family was fine with it.”
His mother was later able to dissolve the marriage, but after a custody fight.
“It is often believed that the battle of custody, or the child, is something else, and it can be used to do a woman’s hard work,” said Noteyar.
A 2020 study, which included 427 divorced women in Pakistan’s Punjab province, found that the high rate of depression, anxiety and stress was common in women, which was largely operated by financial insecurity and family backlash.
Some argue that the most difficult part of divorce is not always isolation, but thus, especially around hair custody and access.
In Pakistan, legal custody is often given to the mother, especially when children are young.
The father is expected to provide financial assistance, but the journey is specificly left for the mother’s discrimination.
Abbas (name changed), a Pakistani father, who pays the child assistance order from the court, said: “The mother and her family have cut into contact. It hurts that the children are deprived of the love of their ancestral grandparents.”
Divorce is not legal
In contrast, the Philippines is only one of the two places in the world where divorce is illegal, the other is the city of Vatican.
The only legal method for married couples in the South East Asian nation is through their union.
Ana p. Santos spent four years. “I had the privilege of doing so,” she said, creating credit to her lawyer, but accepting that many women often cannot tolerate long and fickle process for a long time.
“I refused to pay anyone,” he said, referring to bribe, it is often used to speed up.
Analyuments require evidence of Frau, mental disability, or impotence, forcing women to change individual experiences in depth in legal performance.
Filipino sociologist Ethea Charan Presto told DW, “A woman has been depicted as bad just because she wanted to separate from her husband.”
Many women opt for informal separation, which are unaware of tolerating the financial or emotional cost of the enlution, the Presto said.
Only 1.9% of Filipino has obtained anulment, legal separation, or forgent-recognized divorce.
Collectivity vs. option
In countries such as Pakistan and the Philippines, financial dependence is one of the main reasons that women live in unhappy marriage.
Bella Nawaz, a sex researcher from Pakistan, argues that patriarchy is not the only factor.
“This is not just patriarchy, it is collectivity. We exist as family units, not individuals. And it makes it incredibly difficult to make an independent option for women.”
This mentality pushes women to prioritize family respect personally well, he said.
Those who leave are often selfish or immoral, are cut off from their communities and support systems.
In the case of the Philippines, Presto said that “a woman seeks to seek divorce, community elderly and family members often steps to prevent her from using their choice.”
Experts say that without parallel progress in cultural approaches and economic opportunities for women, legal reforms are unlikely to level the playground alone.
In many parts of Asia, divorce remains a gender process and for women, choosing to leave a marriage is seen as a radical task.
Edited by: Srinivas Majumdaru
